Best Self Help Books
Many of my clients have asked me for book recommendations and many times they forget the slip of paper in my office! So, I thought I would make it easier for the people I work with and those that are interested in reading good books about navigating through life.
Please note that some of products on this page are affiliate links, which means that Laurie’s scholarship fund will receive a very small commission from the maker of the product if you choose to buy it through the links on this page. I value the trust you’ve placed in me, am very protective of our field and that trust, and will never recommend a product that I don’t believe in just to earn some income. There’s no extra cost to you if you choose to buy through the links. I have found that using these links just makes life easier for my clients and will be for you versus the copy and paste method. However, feel free to do that as well. I’m grateful for your support and use the income to allow for a scholarship fund for counseling services.
Feeling Good Together: The Secret to Making Troubled Relationships Work by David D. Burns
Dr. Burns’ method for improving these relationships is easy and surprisingly effective. In Feeling Good Together, you’ll learn how to:
– Stop pointing fingers at everyone else and start looking at yourself.
– Pinpoint the exact cause of the problem with any person you’re not getting along with.
– And solve virtually any kind of relationship conflict almost instantly.
Many of my clients struggle with what to do with after an affair. This is a difficult and challenging time to say the least. This book is a great start in the journey of healing whether you do it together or separately.
Discernment counseling features individual conversations with the leaning-in and leaning-out spouse. A special feature of the protocol is its short-term nature, with an initial commitment to just one session and a decision each time whether to do another session, up to five. This strategy invites both spouses to keep making choices to continue the work.
Laurie Groh specializes in marriage and discernment counseling in Whitefish Bay WI. Click here to read more about discernment counseling.
Individuals involved in chronically frustrating or unfulfilling relationships will learn to:
• Tell the difference between a healthy-yet-difficult relationship and one that is really not working
• Recognize the signs that their partner has a serious problem
• Stop waiting to see what happens-and make their own growth the top priority
• Prepare for life without their partner-even as they keep trying to make the
Getting the Love You Want, 20th Anniversary Edition: A Guide for Couples
Harville Hendrix Ph.D.
“Getting the Love You Want describes the three stages of intimate relationships, provides illustrative case studies and gives helpful recommendations to overcome the obstacles in those stages to create a stronger bond between couples. First, he chronicles the stages of most relationships-attraction, romantic love and the power struggle-and suggests ways for partners to identify the conflicts associated with each of them. Then, he explores methods for achieving a “Conscious Marriage,” where the early phases of romance are rekindled and confrontation is slowly replaced by growth and support. Finally, Dr. Hendrix incorporates these ideas into a unique therapeutic course, offering a series of proven exercises that lead to insight, resolution and revitalization. Step by step, he describes how to communicate with greater accuracy and sensitivity, how to let go of self-defeating behaviors, and how to focus energy on meeting each partners’ needs. With Getting the Love You Want couples in any stage of a relationship can resolve their conflicts and achieve mutual emotional satisfaction.” Excerpt from Amazon.com
Whole Brain Child Daniel J. Siegel
Become an expert on your child and their brain. The brain itself is significantly shaped by the experiences we offer as parents, knowing about the way the brain changes in response to our parenting can help us to nurture a more resilient child. This is a useful parenting book that any parent can benefit from. My co-worker at Shoreside Therapies Kristin Belkofer is currently running an 8 week class with a primary focus on this book. Email her for more information.
“Raising Children Who Refuse To Be Raised is a handbook no natural, foster or adoptive parent should be without. Anyone who lives or works with children with multiple problems who are also frightened, traumatized and angry will benefit from the advice of this master counselor and foster parent.
Janine Gordon, M.D., Board Certified Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist: ‘If you are the parent or therapist of a child who lies, steals, is hyperactive, traumatized, distrustful, aggressive, belligerent or explosive, you will find in this book the fundamentals of parenting such a child. Dr. Ziegler is a dedicated practitioner and foster parent who writes from his 30 years of experience of living and working with children who have multiple problems. He looks at traditional understandings of behavior disordered children with a critical fresh eye. Any parent with a difficult child to raise could benefit from his suggestions. This book will inform, engage, challenge and disarm you, but most of all it will give you hope.'” Excerpt from Amazon.com
Dealing with Addiction
Clients often feel that they are in situations where they are resentful and angry with their partners. This book is not just for clients struggling with a partner with drug or alcohol addiction. This book is a great resource when you feel you might not be in control of your own life. It can help if you are struggling with allowing other people to make decisions for you.
“Anyone who has struggled with sex addiction knows that living with constant sexual compulsions can be extremely difficult. But summoning the courage to find help for this condition can be even more of a challenge. If addictions to pornography, strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitutes, phone sex, or chat rooms have made you feel trapped, this book can help you find a way to break free.
Written by a former sex addict who specializes in counseling people who suffer from sexually compulsive behavior, Breaking the Cycle presents a step-by-step plan to enjoying a life of productivity and purpose. You can free yourself from the powerful, compulsive urges that may have damaged your career, finances, or relationships with friends and family. The exercises in this book will show you how to regain control of your life and build meaningful intimate connections with others.” Excerpt from Amazon.com
Buzzed: The Straight Facts About the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy Cynthia Kuhn, Scott Swartzwelder, Wilkie Wilson: Books
The fourth edition of the essential, accessible source for understanding how drugs work and their effects on body and behavior.
Together, the first two editions of Buzzed have sold over 120,000 copies—and now the authors have revised and updated the book to include the most recent discoveries about drugs, including new information on the energy drinks craze, prescription drugs such as OxyContin and Ambien, and the date-rape drug GHB. Scientifically accurate and easy to read, this no-nonsense handbook gives the most balanced, objective information available on the most often used and abused drugs, from alcohol, caffeine, and nicotine to heroin, Ecstasy, and methamphetamine. In both quick-reference summaries and in-depth analysis, it reports on how these drugs enter the body, how they manipulate the brain, their short-term and long-term effects, the kinds of “high” they produce, and the circumstances in which they can be deadly. Neither a “Just Say No” treatise nor a “How to” manual, Buzzed is based on the conviction that people make better decisions with accurate information at hand. 8 pages of color illustrations