Recommended Books and Videos

I thought I would share with you some of my favorite books.  I gained my Masters in Counseling in 2005, but that didn’t truly give me everything I need to improve individual’s lives.  My clients have given me that, and so have these books.  Hopefully, they will help you as they have helped me with my clients .

For full transparency, some of the products on this page are affiliate links, which means that, at no extra cost to you, I’ll receive a small commission from the maker of the product if you choose to buy it through the links on this page. I value the trust you’ve placed in me, am very protective of our field, and will never recommend a product that I don’t believe in just to earn some income.

Whole Brain Child.  Become an expert on your child and their brain.  The brain itself is significantly shaped by the experiences we offer as parents, knowing about the way the brain changes in response to our parenting can help us to nurture a more resilient child. This is a useful parenting book that any parent can benefit from.  My coworker Kristin Belkofer is currently running an 8 week class with a primary focus on this book.  Email her for more information.


Codependent No More: How to Stop Controlling Others and Start Caring for Yourself
Melody Beattie

Breaking the Cycle: Free Yourself from Sex Addiction, Porn Obsession, and Shame
George Collins MA

“Anyone who has struggled with sex addiction knows that living with constant sexual compulsions can be extremely difficult. But summoning the courage to find help for this condition can be even more of a challenge. If addictions to pornography, strip clubs, massage parlors, prostitutes, phone sex, or chat rooms have made you feel trapped, this book can help you find a way to break free.

Written by a former sex addict who specializes in counseling people who suffer from sexually compulsive behavior, Breaking the Cycle presents a step-by-step plan to enjoying a life of productivity and purpose. You can free yourself from the powerful, compulsive urges that may have damaged your career, finances, or relationships with friends and family. The exercises in this book will show you how to regain control of your life and build meaningful intimate connections with others.” Excerpt from

Getting the Love You Want, 20th Anniversary Edition: A Guide for Couples
Harville Hendrix Ph.D.

“Getting the Love You Want describes the three stages of intimate relationships, provides illustrative case studies and gives helpful recommendations to overcome the obstacles in those stages to create a stronger bond between couples. First, he chronicles the stages of most relationships-attraction, romantic love and the power struggle-and suggests ways for partners to identify the conflicts associated with each of them. Then, he explores methods for achieving a “Conscious Marriage,” where the early phases of romance are rekindled and confrontation is slowly replaced by growth and support. Finally, Dr. Hendrix incorporates these ideas into a unique therapeutic course, offering a series of proven exercises that lead to insight, resolution and revitalization. Step by step, he describes how to communicate with greater accuracy and sensitivity, how to let go of self-defeating behaviors, and how to focus energy on meeting each partners’ needs.  With Getting the Love You Want couples in any stage of a relationship can resolve their conflicts and achieve mutual emotional satisfaction.” Excerpt from

Raising Children Who Refuse To Be Raised: Dave Ziegler: Kindle Store

“Raising Children Who Refuse To Be Raised is a handbook no natural, foster or adoptive parent should be without. Anyone who lives or works with children with multiple problems who are also frightened, traumatized and angry will benefit from the advice of this master counselor and foster parent.
Janine Gordon, M.D., Board Certified Child and Adolescent Psychiatrist: ‘If you are the parent or therapist of a child who lies, steals, is hyperactive, traumatized, distrustful, aggressive, belligerent or explosive, you will find in this book the fundamentals of parenting such a child. Dr. Ziegler is a dedicated practitioner and foster parent who writes from his 30 years of experience of living and working with children who have multiple problems. He looks at traditional understandings of behavior disordered children with a critical fresh eye. Any parent with a difficult child to raise could benefit from his suggestions. This book will inform, engage, challenge and disarm you, but most of all it will give you hope.'” Excerpt from

Buzzed: The Straight Facts About the Most Used and Abused Drugs from Alcohol to Ecstasy : Cynthia Kuhn, Scott Swartzwelder, Wilkie Wilson: Books

The third edition of the essential, accessible source for understanding how drugs work and their effects on body and behavior.

Together, the first two editions of Buzzed have sold over 120,000 copies—and now the authors have revised and updated the book to include the most recent discoveries about drugs, including new information on the energy drinks craze, prescription drugs such as OxyContin and Ambien, and the date-rape drug GHB. Scientifically accurate and easy to read, this no-nonsense handbook gives the most balanced, objective information available on the most often used and abused drugs, from alcohol, caffeine, and nicotine to heroin, Ecstasy, and methamphetamine. In both quick-reference summaries and in-depth analysis, it reports on how these drugs enter the body, how they manipulate the brain, their short-term and long-term effects, the kinds of “high” they produce, and the circumstances in which they can be deadly. Neither a “Just Say No” treatise nor a “How to” manual, Buzzed is based on the conviction that people make better decisions with accurate information at hand. 8 pages of color illustrations

Treating Alcohol and Drug Problems in Psychotherapy Practice: Doing What Works: Arnold M. Washton, Joan E. Zweben: Books

Written specifically for the office-based psychotherapist, this practical guide describes how to detect, assess, diagnose, and treat clients presenting with a range of alcohol and drug problems. Detailed is an integrated, flexible psychotherapeutic approach that emphasizes building a strong therapeutic relationship, engaging clients “where they are,” and addressing substance use within the larger context of their lives. The authors describe in very pragmatic terms how to use a combination of motivational, cognitive-behavioral, 12-step, and psychodynamic techniques with clients in different stages of change. Techniques are brought to life with numerous case vignettes, and appendices include reproducible client forms and handouts.

Five Ways to Stop Saying Yes When You Really Mean No

You meant to say no. You wanted to say no. Instead, as you opened your mouth and started to speak you found the word “yes” once again coming out. Are you worn out with doing everything for everybody? Are you tired of feeling guilty for even thinking about saying no? Are you tired of feeling less than spiritual for wanting time for yourself?

In this article, Licensed Professional Counselor and minister Peggy Haymes gives you five tools for creating more choice and freedom in your life.


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